What's the secret 🗝️ to resilience and inner strength?

Hey there👋. Welcome to this issue of AchieveHER where we are going to go deep into resilience.

TODAY’s TOPIC

• What is resilience?

• What’s the key to building resilience?

• Beware of self-esteem!

WHAT IS RESILIENCE

Resilience refers to the ability to bounce back from adversity, setbacks, or difficult situations. It’s about adapting, recovering, and growing stronger in the face of life’s ups and downs.

WHAT IS THE KEY TO BUILDING RESILIENCE

It's a commonly held belief that self-esteem is the golden ticket to a successful life.

However, growing research suggests that it's self-compassion, not self-esteem, that's the key to resilience and true inner strength! Let me explain how:

Self-compassion involves treating yourself kindly and fairly, especially during challenging times.

It’s not about self-pity or weakness; instead, it’s responding to yourself as you would to a distressed friend.

Dr. Kristin Neff identifies three elements of self-compassion:

1. Mindfulness: Being aware of and acknowledging our emotions.

2. Common Humanity: Recognizing that suffering is part of the human experience.

3. Self-Kindness: Treating ourselves with care and support.

Practicing self-compassion allows us to respond with kindness, shifting from shame to a positive mindset, ultimately building resilience.

SELF-ESTEEM VS SELF-COMPASSION

𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘦𝘮 is, at its core, a judgment – it's where we rank ourselves in a competitive, often status-driven society.

Self-esteem can fluctuate drastically based on our successes and failures, making it a fragile foundation for mental well-being.

𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯, on the other hand, involves treating ourselves compassionately. It's about recognizing our own strengths and weaknesses, just as we would in others.

Self-compassion is cooperative, not competitive, and doesn't hinge on the unstable pedestals of success or failure.

👉What are you going to focus on moving forward? Hit reply and let me know!

Until next week,

Jaspreet