When Wanting More Isn’t a Problem, It’s a Signal.

Last week, during my conversation on the HerOwnNarrative podcast with Neety Jain, she asked me a question that stopped me for a moment:

“Do you ever feel guilty for wanting more… even when life is already good?”

I smiled, because I knew exactly why she was asking.

It’s something almost every high-achieving woman feels but rarely admits out loud:

That quiet, internal tug toward something bigger…
even when nothing is “wrong.”
even when life looks beautiful on paper.
even when everyone around you thinks you’ve already “made it.”

I’ve lived that tension too.

The season where I told myself I should be satisfied.
Where gratitude felt like a responsibility.
And desire felt… inconvenient.

But here’s what I’ve learned and what I shared with Neety:

Wanting more doesn’t make you ungrateful.
It makes you self-aware.

And if you’ve been feeling a subtle nudge lately, a whisper of “something next” - I want to name it clearly:

That’s not restlessness.
That’s not greed.
That’s not dissatisfaction.

That’s your alignment speaking.

Let’s talk about it.

WHAT this tension really is

There’s a unique emotional tension that ambitious women face:

The gap between a life that’s good… and a life that’s true.

You can feel deeply grateful for what you have
AND
feel called toward the next level of who you’re becoming.

This tension usually shows up as:

• a quiet tug you can’t name

• a subtle boredom masked as “comfort”

• a thought that keeps returning even when you push it aside

• a knowing that your current chapter is complete

It’s the inner whisper that says:

“There’s more available for me… and I’m finally ready to go there.”

This is not instability.
It’s evolution.

WHY high-achieving women feel this desire for ‘more’

Because women like you don’t move out of dissatisfaction.
You move out of growth.

You are wired for expansion.
For impact.
For expression.
For self-honoring.
For alignment.

Most people think ambition is a threat, that it means you’re never satisfied.

But for top 1% women, ambition isn’t ego-driven.

Ambition is clarity.
Ambition is self-trust.
Ambition is a sign you’re in integrity with who you’re becoming.

This desire for more isn’t rooted in lack.
It’s rooted in truth.

And when you ignore that truth?
It doesn’t disappear - it just gets quieter… until it turns into misalignment, frustration, or a sense of “stuck.”

Your desire is trying to protect you from that long before it happens.

HOW to honor the ‘more’

Here’s how to hold this desire in a grounded, empowered way:

1.Name the nudge

Say it to yourself without judgment:
“Something in me is asking to expand.”
Naming it neutralizes the guilt.

2.Separate desire from disruption

Wanting more doesn’t mean you need to:

• quit your job tomorrow

• change everything at once

• abandon the life you’ve built
  It simply means: pay attention.

3.Listen for patterns, not pressure

What themes keep resurfacing?
Visibility? Leadership? Creativity? A pivot? A different pace?
Your next chapter usually reveals itself in repetition.

4.Make space before you make decisions

You don’t need a plan yet, you need clarity.
Give yourself reflection time, not reaction time.

5.Treat desire as data

Desire is not indulgent.
It’s information.
It tells you where you’re being called, not where you’re failing.

The women who thrive are the ones who listen early, not because they’re reckless, but because they’re honest.

Remember, you don’t have to leap.
You don’t have to know the full picture.
You don’t even have to be ready.

You just have to be willing to listen.

And if this is the season where your “more” is getting louder…
I’d love to walk with you into that next chapter.

✨ Your desire isn’t the problem. It’s the signal.

Reply back anytime, tell me what your “more” looks like right now.

I’m cheering for you, always.

Until next week,

Jaspreet